The “Mommy… I’m BORED!” Buster Board

Seriously… I’ve already heard it multiple times and school’s only been out for 2 days!! “Mommy… I’m BORED!!!” Oh heavens.

Time to take action!

I’ve got a ton of cute ideas pinned on my Pinterest Summertime board (and the Mommy…I’m Bored board), but my kids don’t know how to access that (thankfully?), so that does little to keep them from coming and tapping me every 10 minutes to complain that they’ve got nothing to do. Oh, what to do, what to do?

I'm Bored Activities for Kids

{Insert royal trumpets sounding} SOOO… I created this printable for the kiddos to reference on their own whenever they’ve got the “I’m Bored” Blues! The first column is activities they can do by themselves, the second column is things to do with a sibling or friend (although a lot of items on either column could be done alone or with a friend).

Print, laminate (if desired), and post it on the fridge where they can easily see it. Problem solved. (Or so I’m pretending!) 😉

I'm Bored on the Fridge

And since I know I’m not the only parent out there with the same problem, I thought it a worthy cause to break my internet silence and share it with y’all. lol. 🙂 So I’m including a free printable for y’all… as always, just cuz I love ya!

Click HERE to DOWNLOAD the I’M BORED file!

{And speaking of breaking internet silence, I’m also hoping to find some time (soon) to start sharing some information with y’all that I’ve recently learned about regarding planning for your financial future! It is SO AWESOME and SO AMAZING! I can’t believe it’s not more known! But now that I know about it I’m definitely going to try and spread the word. So stay tuned for some financial features!!}

But back to the list… I tried to use pretty generic ideas that any kid anywhere could do. But here are some things I’ll clarify and that you may want to have on hand and ready to go as they use the list:

  • PERLER BEADS… these are awesome to have on hand. You can find Perler Beads, like THESE on Amazon, or they are also at craft stores.You stick the beads on a plastic pegboard to make a design, and then lightly iron it to melt the beads together.  My girls LOVE doing these and they can occupy HOURS, I tell you. HOURS! 🙂 My girls have THIS PET SET and love it!
  • A Money Job is simply a job they can do around the house for some money. We have a list of them printed out for them to see, but you can always just make some up on the fly.
  • Print out some “Learn to draw” pages from off the internet (Google search) to have ready for them to grab.
  • PONY BEADS are great to have on hand for making necklaces, bracelets, or even decorating crafts.
  • Keep PLAY-DOH on hand (homemade or store bought)… and I’ll try and upload my play-dough mats soon, but you can probably Google some too! Just don’t forget to laminate them, or they’ll get all gunked up and need to be tossed. (Speaking of laminating… I totally recommend getting your own laminator! THIS is the kind I have and I love it. Not very expensive and saves TONS on not having to reprint things!)
  • Here’s a link to instructions for SALT PAINTING. Super cute and very easy set-up.
  • Here’s a link to the MARBLE RACE TRACK (it uses pool noodles… keep those on hand too! There are TONS of things to do with them!!)
  • And I can’t find my link for the tin foil river, but basically, you just take a loooonng length of aluminum foil and curve the edges up (lengthwise) into a “U” shape, then fill with water down the length of the foil and have them race things down it… sticks, homemade boats, bottle caps, anything small that floats. 🙂

I think everything else is typical ‘around the house’ stuff. So by just keeping a few things on hand–ready for when it strikes their summertime fancy–you’ll be a happy, sane Mommy. (Living in denial is a wonderful thing.) 🙂  HAPPY SUMMER!!!!

Emotional Preparedness: One more thing

Back when we were talking about how to deal with stress, I neglected to mention one of the most important things to do when we’re having a tough time– and that is to pray.

Whenever we find ourselves overwhelmed with life and feeling like we’re in over our heads, always remember that there is One who knows our every need and One who knows how to calm our inner storms. Don’t forget to turn to the greatest source of help… don’t forget to pray!

“Oh, how praying rests the weary!
Prayer will change the night to day.
So, when life gets dark and dreary,
Don’t forget to pray.”
-Hymn #140, Did You Think To Pray?

Emotional Preparedness: Dealing With Stress

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Stress. The mere mention of the word makes me tense up and shudder. I think I tend to lead a little bit of a high-stress life. Part of that is my own doing, and part of that is simply because I have kids. 😀

But the part about ‘my own doing’ is mainly that I have never really learned how to properly deal with stress. In my college years, I thrived on stressful situations. I could always perform my responsibilities better when under pressure versus if I didn’t have a care in the world and a ton of time to get something accomplished. However, since becoming a mom, I’ve discovered that not all stress is the same and we handle different kinds of stresses differently. The stresses I deal  with on a daily basis now do anything but help me to perform my responsibilities better and I often do anything but handle them well.

I used to picture myself as a totally fun, collected, brilliant mom who always had fun, crafty things to do with the kids, and every day was a fun, new adventure.  This fairy tale life I had envisioned back when I was a single, naive young woman kept me from preparing myself mentally for the reality that lay ahead. Now that real life has hit, every day is an adventure alright… but my goal is simply to last long enough to put the kiddos to bed each night without doing permanent damage to any of us through the course of the day. 😀 And I have finally reached a point in life where I have begun to realize that life would probably be a whole lot easier (not to mention more enjoyable!) if I learned how to actually deal with the stress instead of just trying to live with it.

So as I’ve started studying how to handle stress better, here are some things I’ve learned:

1. Breathe. This is for immediate help in a stressful situation and has been one of the biggest helps for me. I always thought it sounded corny to just take deep breaths… like that was somehow going to magically take away all my problems. Well, it doesn’t take away the problems. But it does help your body respond to the problems better. Try this: as soon as you feel your body tensing up in a stressful situation (i.e. your child is screaming again for the 30th time in a day), stop whatever you are doing, close your eyes, and start taking deep, meaningful breaths. Focus on filling up your lungs and then letting all the air out. Repeat this several times. Open your eyes and then address the situation. I’m not kidding that this helps! I’ll often be doing dishes or something and will just have to stop (water running and all) and start taking deep breaths so that I can respond better to my children instead of reacting poorly to the stressful situation. Okay, moving on.

2. Simplify. When you are stressed, it’s often because there are too many things going on at the same time. It’s time to take a step back and just simplify life. Cut back on activities and obligations. Learn how to say no to things that you don’t really have the time and/or energy for. If you already have a lot of obligations you’ve agreed to, prioritize them and handle them one task at a time. Don’t try to juggle everything at once. Ask for help in getting things accomplished, and, once completed, do not take on any new tasks until you are sure you are able to handle them. Do not feel guilty if you have to tell someone, “I’m sorry, but I just won’t be able to help with that.” They will survive without your help! I promise! There are plenty of other people in this world with capable hands! You don’t have to do everything! (Shocking revelation… I know!) 😀

3. Remember. Remember your priorities and what is truly important. Often the things we are stressing about are things that are not really important and we end up hurting or compromising the people that we really care about over something that doesn’t really matter to us at all. So take a step back, remember what matters, and then let the rest slide. I have to remind myself of this when I’m sitting at the computer for large amounts of time and my girls start whining and crying because I’m not paying any attention to them. And then I get frustrated because they’re whining. But really it’s my own fault because I’m ignoring the things/people that are important (my beautiful, precious daughters) for something that really isn’t important at all (the computer). So remember, remember and remind yourself often. 🙂

4. Me Time. This has been another HUGE one for me. Take some time for just yourself. It can be a few minutes every day, a few hours every week, or whatever works for you, but you have GOT to take some time to connect with who you are. When I was finally understanding that I had to do something about my stress levels, I told Hubby that I was going to take Wednesday nights for myself. (Fortunately I have the most wonderful husband in the world who didn’t even bat an eye and said that sounded fabulous.) 🙂 So every Wednesday night, Hubby stays home with the kids and I go do absolutely whatever I want. I desperately try to avoid doing ‘mommy’ things with that time (i.e. the grocery shopping, etc) because this is MY time. I’m learning to reconnect with ME. I’ve been spending time at the library just reading. Going to the mall and just wandering. Trying to feel pretty again. Rediscovering my likes and interests. Anything that helps me remember who I am/was that makes me unique and special. I’ve only been doing this for about a month or so now, but it’s already been helping a lot. I come home, anxious to see my kids again and ready to go another round in the wringer. 🙂

5. Slow Down. Try not to let yourself be in a rush. If you’re in a rush, that means you don’t have time for something unexpected to happen. And something unexpected always seems to happen, so high stress inevitably ensues. I frequently find myself trying to rush life along. Even when I don’t have any place I need to be. I think our culture in general has moved towards this. We just do everything fast paced now. This reminds me of a song that goes, “I’m in a hurry to get things done. Oh, I rush and rush until life’s no fun. All I really gotta do is live and die, but I’m in a hurry and don’t know why.” Doesn’t that seem so true? Try just slowing your pace down a little bit and see how much more peace it brings to your life.

6. Exercise and Relaxation Techniques. Again, learning to connect with your body will not take away stressful situations, but will help you to deal with stress better. Here’s what the Mayo Clinic has to say about it:
“Relaxation techniques are an essential part of stress management. Relaxation isn’t just about finding some quiet time or enjoying a hobby. Relaxation is a process that helps you repair the toll that stress takes on your mind and body.
“Almost everyone can benefit from learning relaxation techniques. Relaxation techniques usually involve refocusing your attention to something calming and increasing awareness of your body. Common relaxation techniques include meditation and yoga. Almost any type of exercise is a great stress buster. It doesn’t matter which relaxation technique you choose. What matters is that you practice relaxation regularly.”

Well, I’m sure there are lots of additional helpful ideas for dealing with stress, but I just wanted to share what I’ve learned that has been working for me. I hope this can help someone else as well! And please feel free to share any tips that have worked for you as well! Warm wishes and happy thoughts to you all!

Emotional Preparedness: Introduction

Experiencing a disaster or otherwise traumatic event can stir up an enormous amount of unexpected emotion. The aftermath of an emergency situation often leaves you in unfamiliar territory with a lot of unknown factors, and the unknown can truly be an unsettling or even scary place. It is hard to predict how you will really respond in any given situation until it actually happens. However, there is a lot to be said for mental/emotional preparedness and the positive effect it can have on your post-trauma behavior. This is because if you have prepared for, and even rehearsed, given scenarios, you will not feel like you are in such foreign territory and will therefore be able to respond to the challenges while still keeping your whits about you. This is especially important if you are a parent of young children (or children of any age for that matter!) who will be looking to you for guidance in a crisis situation. Your calm reaction and handling of the situation will go a long way in helping your children handle and heal from the trauma better and faster.
So on that note, here are some post-emergency stress tips, and in the future we will also discuss learning how to deal with our everyday stress so that we can be better prepared for emergencies as well. (This is a subject that will definitely benefit me! 🙂 Oh heavens!)

Some basic steps you can take to meet physical and emotional needs following a disaster situation are:

  • Try to return to as many of your regular personal and family routines as possible. Normalcy is a great stress reliever.
  • Get rest, nutritional food, and drink plenty of water. Your body will not be able to cope with a long-term stressful situation if it is not receiving the proper care that it needs (adrenaline will only get you so far).
  • Limit your exposure to the sights and sounds of the disaster, especially on television, the radio and in the newspapers.
  • Focus on the positive.
  • Recognize your own feelings. Reach out and accept help from others when needed. It is NOT a sign of weakness to ask for help!
  • If you have not been greatly impacted, reach out and help others. Service is a great way to boost your positive emotions!
  • Do something you enjoy. Do something as a family that you have all enjoyed in the past.
  • Stay connected with your family and/or other support systems (i.e. church groups).
  • And finally, realize that recovery can take time. Be patient in allowing things to settle down. They will. But it just takes time.

And may I just add a pleading note? Please do not neglect this area of preparedness. It’s easy to forget about because it’s not easily seen and it’s not something you can go out and buy. But it is every bit as important as a 72-hour kit or a shelf full of food. Take it from one who has had their share of breakdowns… learn how to deal with stress before it deals with you!

Source: http://www.dhss.mo.gov/Ready_in_3/EmotionalPreparedness.html

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